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Thursday, May 23, 2013

Family Time Flexibility Act

I am most comfortable writing about family, homeschooling and parenting.  I usually stay away from politics. I do not identify as a conservative and I realize that is somewhat rare in the homeschool blog world.  But sometimes something affects me personally and I just can not let it go.  I need to make my voice heard.  In this case, this is a parenting and family life issue.  It's called The Family Time Flexibility Act.

This is how Representative Judy Biggert defines the bill:

What the bill does do is two things: it gives employees more choices, and it gives employers another option to make their employees happy. The concept is a very simple one: if workers have to work overtime, they should be allowed to choose how they will be compensated — with more money or more time off. And if employers want to offer another way to keep their employees happy, they can offer them the option of taking time and a half off in lieu of time and a half pay for hours worked overtime.
On the surface this seems great.  It seems like employers want to make their employees happy.  However, I don't think that is the only reason for this bill.  By not paying employees time and half for their overtime hours, employers can make bigger profits.  Profits are important.  I get that completely.

Tracking Nightmare

Proponents of this bill say that it would give employees of private companies the same rights as employees in the public sector.  I work in the public sector and while I am part-time and do not get these benefits, many of my full-time colleagues do trade overtime hours for comp time.  It is a nightmare to keep track of.  The employee feels they worked 40 hours overtime, but our Director only has 36 hours down.  Someone is always feeling they are getting the short end of the stick.  There is always an issue when they want to take the comp time, some of them have accumulated months' worth of vacation time and comp time and if they ever took it, we would be way understaffed and would not have the budget to replace them for that time period.  If they ever took all that comp time, it would be a hardship to the library.

Who does the work?

I wonder if this bill states how and when employees can use this time?  Would they have to use it all by the end of the year?  Or would they be able to carry it over?  Would an employer have to pay them for the time if they were to leave the company?  Or would that be up to each individual employer?  How will employers handle employees who get several weeks of vacation and sick pay and now possibly up to 4 weeks of comp time...this could result in an employee having more than 2 months off per year...can their employer afford to give them that kind of time off?  Who would do their work?  How would it affect the company and the company's profitability if each employee took more than 2 months off per year, in other words more than 1/6 of the year off?  How would their work get done?

Our Experience

My husband is paid hourly.  We like it better than when he was paid salary because of the overtime.  Sometimes he works 40 hours in three or four days and then takes a long weekend.  Other times, he takes a Monday off and then works the following Saturday.  He is fortunate that his employer is very flexible.  I see where it could be neat to be able to work a lot of overtime and then take a week off...but, like I said, it's a nightmare to keep track of.

Jason's regular 40 hour wages cover our needs and some of our wants, the overtime pays for extras.  This fall, Jason got a lot of overtime after Hurricane Sandy, so when he had unexpected surgery in November, we actually had a lot of padding in our checking account and touched our savings very little.  When he returned to work, his overtime wages allowed us to replenish what we took out of savings quickly.  Right now, Jason's overtime is going toward remodeling our kitchen and saving for a vacation.

Re-writing the Fair Labor Act of 1938 is Dangerous

I know that the way the Family Time Flexibility Act is written it leaves the choice in the employees' hands of whether they want the time and a half wages or the comp time.  I try to see past all the hype and spin in every issue, I don't align myself with either the left or the right, I tend to take things issue by issue and research all sides, weigh the facts and think about my own position.  In this case, while I would love to believe this bill is truly designed to protect family time.  I believe conservatives are justifiably and correctly interested in creating jobs and strengthening our economy and I can not in good conscience believe that the purpose of this bill is solely to protect family time.
Unions are not perfect, there is a lot of corruption, but the alternative may be worse.
We have had several friends whose pay has been cut in the last few years.  Thankfully, Jason's pay has not been cut, but he did not have a wage increase for several years.  In 2008, his company, like many companies, put a hiring and wage freeze into place.  Some companies were also getting rid of top earners at that time--I sat with a friend at a homeschool field trip who was petrified because her husband's company was giving out pink slips and he had been there for 20 years and was a high earner.  Fortunately, Jason's company did not systematically cut top earners but they are not giving top wage earners pay increases, so more and more every year our family is dependent on time and a half overtime wages.

How are people supposed to save enough for retirement when they don't even get annual cost of living increases?  The same people who don't want to give pay increases want to do away with Social Security.  It is difficult for people who are not even getting cost of living increases to kiss the hundreds of thousands of dollars they have put into Social Security good-bye!  How are we supposed to save enough for retirement when every year our money gets stretched a little further?  And yet the average CEO commands 380% more than the average worker because the CEO takes risks.  But what if the CEO made 100% more or even 200% more--is that not enough compensation for the risk?  That extra 180% could "trickle down" to workers and may make the difference between being able to have enough to retire or more money to spend on goods and services which would drive profits up--but these days you are Socialist if you want workers to get better pay.  I wonder how long those of us who don't get cost of living increases will be able to afford goods and services and to support small businesses?  And what will happen when all these people who can't afford to save for retirement get too old too work?  Will they be on the street?  

I am afraid that rewriting the Fair Labor Act of 1938 is dangerous for American families and corporations.  The Family Time Flexibility Act could open the door to stop paying time and half over 40 hours a week for hourly employees.   Companies may be more profitable if they paid those people their regular wages over 40 hours, but what is going to happen when the middle class can no longer afford to pay for goods and services?  Without Jason's overtime we would not be able to afford to remodel our kitchen or go on vacation (thousands of dollars we are putting back in the economy) and I know a lot of other families who are reliant on time and a half for the "extras"--what happens when thousands of families, reliant on that overtime, can not afford goods and services?  Profits will go down.  Employers should take a lesson from Henry Ford, who paid his employees better than average so they could afford his cars...the end result: he sold more cars (and came up with the assembly line and 40 hour work weeks!).

Getting Ahead of the Game

If they got paid time and a half for those hours, they could take unpaid days off and still be ahead of the game!  As one of my friends said, they can take the time but they might not be able to afford to do anything with it.  Believe me, I understand that time with your kids is priceless and it doesn't matter if you go to Disney or sit and stare at dirt when you are together.  But if people get paid time and a half and take unpaid days off, they could possibly end up ahead of the game.  And if their employer is not okay with them taking the unpaid days, I would question how difficult it would be for them to use comp time.

The bottom line: I am terrified for our country.  Greed is part of human nature, it is what sets us apart from divine beings. Most of our politicians and corporate leaders are not above it and they have so much control and power, they vote themselves raises (in the case of politicians, with our tax dollars) while they take wages away from the middle class.  It is outrageous and destructive.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

The Puppets

My aunt, uncle and Naunie volunteered for a clinic for kids from inner city neighborhoods in New York City for many, many years.  I remember visiting there when I was a little girl.  My aunt worked in the office and handled a lot of administrative things.  My uncle ran a drama club and had the kids perform plays.  And my Naunie taught sewing classes.

The clinic was held on Saturdays at a community center type place in Queens.  The kids were often unruly and disruptive and not well-behaved.  They were loud and silly.  The adults would all complain about the kids' attitudes and the disruptions.  But my Naunie would say, "Gah, they are good kids.  They are fine.  They are nice kids."

They all thought she was just being kind, big-hearted, which would both have easily been words anyone would have used to describe my Naunie.

One day, they looked in while she was teaching this group of rowdy, inner-city girls from a gang-populated, tough neighborhood.  My Naunie sat in the middle of the circle, speaking softly and all the girls were leaning in, quiet as mice to hear her.  They were trying their best to do what she said.  They looked up to her.  She was patient and kind, she spoke softly and they listened.  She had a way about her that let you know she had lived a hard life, leaving her family at 17 to cross an ocean, never to see her parents again; she had loved a man who died too young; her marriage had been arranged by her brothers-in-law and she had lost three babies to illness; she had survived the Great Depression and many other smaller, personal financial hardships.  And yet she was not bitter, she was kind, she was patient, she was understanding of these boisterous teens.  She had a lot of love in her and these young people felt it.

One of the many legacies my Naunie left is The Puppets.

The Puppets were created for the clinic puppet shows that my uncle used to co-ordinate finding scripts and having the kids practice and memorize lines and learn to use the puppets.

They did Robin Hood and Scrooge and Joan of Arc, among many others.

When I was a little girl, The Puppets were kept in a drawer in a spare bedroom at my Naunie's house.  And once in a while, not often, but once in a while, I was permitted to play with them.



The details of these costumes are amazing.  They are a labor of love and tale of long hours spent imagining and creating.  They are a testimony to my Naunie's skill as a seamstress, a skill she had learned as a young girl in her Sicilian village, a talent she has passed on to my mother and to Allie.

The heads are made out of rubber balls.  The pink kind that kids in my mom's day used to bounce against the sides of their New York City apartment building and homes and stoops.  My uncle cut holes in the balls and painted faces on them.  My Naunie sewed hats and attached them to the heads very firmly, they have not even come off a little in over 40 years.

There are pockets in the costumes for your hands and then you put the ball over a couple of fingers.

There was no pattern for these puppets.  My uncle and my Naunie just dreamed them up and created them.  My Naunie sewed the clothes without a pattern, and you can tell she loved every second of it, for she put so much detail into each piece.  It has been more than 40 years and there is not a tear or a rip or a seam that is coming undone.  These costumes are of higher quality than most things today.

Now my girls play with them.  They create stories for the puppets and act them out in the garden, just as I had done as a child.  It's not something I allow them to do often.  The Puppets can't be an every day thing, they need to remain special.  And they need to be passed on to my Naunie's great-great grandchildren and hopefully her great-great-great grandchildren.


I have my Naunie's china.  And there are afghans she knitted and photos all around, but when my girls play with The Puppets, when they see those exquisite details, the love that went into those puppets created for strangers and street kids, then my girls know more about who my Naunie was and how special she was.

Today would be her 110th Birthday.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Life Lately

In the early days of our homeschooling journey, I clung to the homeschool blog world to make sure I was doing this right, to get ideas and inspiration and courage from others on this journey.  Sure, we looked for local friends and we hung out with them and shared stories and ideas.  But I needed that "down and dirty" stuff that is only shared through uninterrupted written words and photographs; I needed to see the closets, not just hear about them; I needed to see the bad days and the activities, not just hear the stories interrupted by children asking for permission to do something;  I needed to see the actual workbooks and have someone go over them in detail, not just hand me one to review on my own.

Now that we have been doing this for three years, my interests and my needs have changed.  I've found my "sea legs", my confidence.  I've learned that we all homeschool differently.  I've grown in confidence that the way we do things is best for my girls.  I still find inspiration from homeschool blogs, but I don't cling to them as I once did.  Now I just like to see what my friends are up to, what their kids are doing.

I used to make time to read blogs every day.  I have not had time for that lately and I apologize, I catch up when I can.  Lately we have been so busy, just doing our thing.

There have been babies to welcome into the world.

Friends to explore with.

Sleepovers to giggle at.

Cuddling with my girls on the couch, watching a cheesy, sappy show, but the time together is priceless.

Pottery to make and paint.

Art classes to take.

Choir rehearsals and concerts to attend.

Gardens to plant.

Meals to prepare.

Games to play.

Books to read.

Vacations to plan.

Kitchens to remodel.


News to obsess over and pray about.

Girls who want to nurture lives.

Yoga to keep me centered and balanced and breathing deeply.

Friends to talk with for hours.

Classes to plan for co-op.

A Geography Fair to co-ordinate for our co-op.

Library programs to develop.

I've been asked to write a few parenting articles for some different websites.

Life has been wonderful and busy and rich and fulfilling.


Friday, May 17, 2013

Week of May 11, 2013

Outside Classes


Allie's art work was selected to be used in publications about the program she is attending.
All of the girls art and music classes ended this week.  There was a stunning art show at Allie's art school and some of her work was selected and used in mailings for the program.

On Sunday, Mother's Day, we had the pleasure of hearing Piper sing with the Children's Choir and then were invited to wonderful dinner at a friend's house.  Our girls are in choir together and we spent every Wednesday walking and talking (or sitting and sipping coffee when it was bitterly cold).  I felt funny crashing their family party, but everyone was so nice and welcoming.  It was a great day!
Piper enjoys being part of the choir

Different Kids, Different Styles

My girls are both so different.  Piper is the kind of kid who did great in school, school came easy for her and, for the most part, she loved it.  Allie, on the other hand, was not cut out for school, it did not suit her learning style or creative personality.  Now that we are venturing into more interest-led unschooling, these differences are becoming apparent again.  Allie is so suited to interest-led learning, she spends her time reading, designing homes, creating products and marketing campaigns for them, baking, cooking, sewing, researching animals, making things for her gerbils and taking care of her gerbils.  Piper, on the other hand, would play Minecraft or Webkinz from the time she woke up until the time she went to sleep if allowed.  

This week we put some serious limitations on "screen" time, which Piper finds extremely unfair.  Now, when she sees me on the computer, she raises her eyebrows, clears her throat and asks how much time I have spent on the computer.  It's kind of cute and really annoying.  
We spent time this week exploring a creek with friends

Things We Did This Week

  • watched "Secret Yosemite" on Netflix
  • read about the stock market in A Kids' Guide to Investing in the Stock Market
  • painted pottery
  • Allie created several natural, organic products for women and wrote up advertising and marketing campaigns for them
  • Piper researched pet mice and wrote a paper on pet mouse care and why she wants a pet mouse
  • played Division War
  • played Q-bitz
  • played Go Fish
  • explored a creek and park with friends
  • researched Tibet (Allie) and Egypt (Piper) for the Geography Fair at co-op
  • Allie researched the Free Tibet movement after learning about it while working on her poster
  • Allie read 4 chapters of The Hobbit for a class at co-op
  • Allie spent time designing homes on Home Design 3D
  • Piper did some administrative tasks for 7 Cool Homeschoolers
  • Khan Academy for computer programming
  • Watched CNN Student News
  • Piper has been talking about getting a guinea pig, but they live 6-8 years, so we compromised on a mouse first.
    Allie had researched gerbils extensively before getting Lenox and Onyx, so we asked Piper to do the same.
    When we got to the pet store, however, the mouse she was eyeing for the last 2 months was gone...and we all fell in love with this VERY spazzy little Robo Hamster she named Gizmo :)

    Last week we battled and stomach bug and we needed something to get us out of the rut, so I took the girls to the bookstore and offered to buy ANYTHING they were interested in (within reason, of course).
    Card games pretty much ruled this week.
    There was an art show at the college where Allie takes classes.